Once a Pedophile, Always a Pedophile

During my years as a prosecutor, I learned from many experts in sex offender behavior that pedophilia cannot be cured.  Some people believe that some pedophiles can resist offending given long term and appropriate treatment, but that resistance doesn’t mean they can be cured of their sexual interest in children.  A recent story more than proves this point.  An Ohio man is facing charges for collecting 70,000 images and videos of children being sexually assaulted.  Sadly, finding those who are so driven to see (and who enjoy) children being sexually abused in possession of even hundreds of thousands of awful images and videos is not uncommon.  In this case, however, the man was a convicted sex offender.  He was convicted 30 years ago of raping a young boy.  I feel certain the boy has continued to suffer for the past 30 years.  What penalty did his rapist get?  A mere 3 years in prison followed by a teaching position at Missouri State University.  Of course, the man also has had a great deal of time to use his computer to sexually exploit hundreds or thousands of other children by contributing to the sick marketplace of child pornography.  This case is a prime example of why we must continue to push for serious sentences and consequences for those who sexually exploit children.  See the story at:  http://wapo.st/1dk5T3G


3 thoughts on “Once a Pedophile, Always a Pedophile

  1. missy304

    Hi. I’ve been doing some research on this phenomenon; families that protect/defend pedophiles. My mind is blown as Google gives me no relevant information on this matter. I live in Canada. I reported historical sexual abuse on a family member of mine three years ago. Since then, he has been charged and convicted. He plead guilty in court. Yet, my family has been conducting a smear campaign against me for the last three years. I’ve never been able to have any of them charged with harassment and believe me, I have tried. There isn’t any repercussions whatsoever for all the harm they have caused me. Is there anything you can tell me about this phenomenon? I have been searching the entire web and I haven’t found anything. Surely, I am not the first one that this happens too….and I also won’t be the last. To me, this almost feels like a hate crime (even though I know it doesn’t fit the definition at all), There doesn’t seem to be any form of justice when it comes to people saying a convicted pedophile is the victim and that i’m the abuser.

    1. Francey Hakes Post author

      Thank you for your comment. I have never understood this dynamic, either. I think it is simply impossible for some people to accept that someone they know/love is sexually interested in children. They feel like they would have known if that were true so it must be false. I applaud your bravery in reporting your own abuse and I am so glad the offender was convicted. I hope you are talking with a professional counselor about this, as I think they can really help survivors find a way forward. I wish you the best of luck.

  2. missy304

    Thank you for the advice, I am a social worker.. and I have been to therapy however I personally feel that simply educating myself on the matter helps me more than anything else. I know my maternal family have generations upon generations of narcissism. The need to be in power and protecting their family image has proven to be stronger than life. I just feel as if I was failed in some way by the crown attorney. He asked me multiple times if I wanted to take this plea bargain and I kept refusing. He relied on me taking this bargain as 10 minutes before trial, he started to ask questions in terms of my abuser’s upbringing. It was clear that he was not prepared for the vicious trial I was about to attend and I felt like accepting the bargain was the wisest decision at that point. The only reason I accepted the bargain was because I had no confidence in the crown attorney.
    I just can’t believe how there doesn’t seem to be any information available for victims who’s families have shunned them following the disclosure.


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